I met my pal and writing chum Tammie this morning, and as we settled into our semi-monthly routine of ordering some coffees, unbundling our gear at our table at the restaurant, and chatting a few about the recent events in our lives, our talk touched on current life and relationships, and my mind revisited...
Read more →This morning, I was a little surprised to look outside very early, and under the new sunlight was a layer of white on the ground. Naturally, much of the white stuff was gone by this afternoon, but the snow lent itself to the mood for the day. I stayed up a bit too late...
Read more →Back on December 30th of last year, I wrote about perhaps the biggest frustration I face as I try to live my life- and it is my regular fight with passivity. I stated then that I knew the problem with it I was having, and that I just needed to be more assertive with...
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I’ve not posted one of these in a while, but this song leapt out of nowhere to tackle me. Lady A has provided me with some of my favorite easy listening and romantic country ballads. I have enjoyed being their fan for nearly a decade, I think. But what has pulled me even closer...
Read more →About three years ago, I decided I needed help in wrangling with some issues in my inner life, and I called up a counselor I had seen for a season a decade earlier. We reconnected in an initial visit, and then reconvened into a routine of weekly visits. Why was I there? What did...
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“We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very...
Read more →I had an internal crisis this week that was a good wake-up call in a few areas. I received a phishing email very early Thursday morning that claimed that a hacker had accessed my hard drive through a compromised email account, and that the intruder had planted malware on my computer that would share...
Read more →I wish I knew why I always go back to dark and gray moments, when the silence was loud, and the words were left unsaid, and glances were shared or avoided, and the pregnant awkwardness was packageable, palpable, electrical. Those are the images that ended up written into the hallowed chambers of my heart,...
Read more →“Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion?” Luke 11:11-12 Ten days into the Trump administration, and it has been dizzying to see what the President and his people would do from one...
Read more →I’ve been on a productivity kick lately. It could be that now that I am deep into 45, I hear the clock ticking more than ever, and since I do not have children, I am clamoring to create or craft something- anything- that will help me to feel that my life has been worth...
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In some seasons of my life, it can feel like being is divided into three layers. On the surface is the layer of action, where the day to day bustle of life happens. In the innermost one, people meet and share their souls, and find camaraderie and sympathy and compassion, and it’s there they...
Read more →I, like many other people, find at times that I am at a loss on how to have something to say. I write this post today mostly for myself, because I need to hear it repeatedly, but I thought that it might be helpful for one or two of you as well. The mechanics...
Read more →As I have been digging through literature on male development and masculinity, I find I return to think about the concept forwarded by Eldredge and touched on by other authors: that those men who grow up with a stunted or damaged masculinity somewhere along the way were either abused or neglected in that area...
Read more →The hard part for me about having this blog and writing things to it is that I am honest. I want to be an honest person. And I want to write honest things. But, unfortunately, I am also a pretty subjective person. I want to write a bit about my own life- my own...
Read more →It’s always a precarious thing to wade back into our memories. When time passes and life batters us by waves of experiences, it’s easy to lose clarity about the things that have happened to us- especially those that happened long ago from where we are now. What we cannot remember clearly, we forget. And...
Read more →Today was a decent day, but unfortunately it ended with a second Lobo loss this week. If you are a UNM Lobo hoops fan, this week has been pretty enlightening and disheartening, as we have seen where our men’s team stands related to the other top conference contenders. Lobo basketball is still the biggest...
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